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About that …

 

 

Holy bananas, people. I know I’ve been straight-dreadful at posting lately. Life not only caught up with me, but completely bowled me over.

So, you know I’ve been blogging for The Broke-Ass Bride as their new Real Weddings contributor. It’s super awesome, I’m learning tons and it’s a lot of work. But in the bestfreakingwaypossible. It’s a great venue for writing for me and also being able to reach out and remember how exciting that post-wedding halo is. Brides get STOKED to have their stuff appear on a blog they love. I would know. That’s how I’ve felt with the Offbeat Bride post, the Broke-Ass Bride post and Kat’s recap on Persimmon Images.

On top of this, and my regularly scheduled real job, I’ve been asked to edit a second book for someone I have already edited a book for.

Also, it snowed. So I finally was able to get out on my snowboard. Aussie and I miraculously had a day off together and he was even more miraculously able to get his hands on his work pass, so we got to spend a whole glorious day cruising the mountain. It was a nice respite from reading words constantly. It was a perfect bluebird day, there were plenty of powder pockets to be destroyed and our playlists couldn’t have been more appropriate.

Also, the tickets for Shannypantses wedding this summer are booked, and I ordered a smokin’ hot dress for it.

I’m seeking out a couple new business possibilities right now as well, so we’ll see what comes to fruition. Keep your fingers crossed!

Finally … I freaking want to go to this concert SOOOO BAD. If only money did, in actuality, grow on trees.

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Vintage? Try again.

East Side Bride has a great guest post up from Noa of Feather Love Photography about the overabundant use of the word vintage in today’s weddingland. 

I know I used it at least once or twice during our planning. And I see it everywhere. In blog titles, in descriptions of products on Etsy or other sites. On photographer’s blogs describing their style. EVERYWHERE.

Before you start throwing it around like it ain’t no one’s bidness, plz read what Noa has to say.

Photo via Pinterest via The Daily Oyster via Vogue Nov. 2005

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Said.

For our ceremony, we decided we wanted a simple civil ceremony with certain twists that were just us. I contacted Dard Aller, who was the hotel-recommended officiant, to get his standard ceremony. I asked him if I could tweak it, which he consented to. Originally timed, it came out to 8 minutes. Apparently it lasted a bit longer than that. I have no clue what the final count was.

Greeting

“Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. “Pooh,” he whispered.
“Yes, Piglet?”
“Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s paw, “I just wanted to be sure of you.”

Marriage is more than the joining in the bonds of matrimony of two persons. In its right relation, it is the uniting of two souls who are already attuned to each other. It is, as Pooh and Piglet point out, being truly sure of one another. When such a true bond already exists between two people, it’s fitting an outer acknowledgment be made. This acknowledgment is the prime object of this gathering and this ceremony.

We are here to bear witness to the entry into the closer relationship these two people… of you two beloved friends who are already close in spirit. Today, exactly three years after you first realized you shared a special bond, you are now taking into your care and keeping the happiness of the one person whom you love best. You are adding to your life not only the affection of each other, but also the companionship and the blessing of a deep trust. You’re agreeing to share strengths, responsibilities and love, and to always be sure of the other.

Leigh and Christen chose the location of Hawaii as a symbolism of compromise. Here they welcome their families and friends who’ve come from half a world apart to join them as they are united in this bond. Both believe compromise is one of many vital building blocks for a strong relationship, as it is the coming together of two entities which may start far apart and must communicate, trust and respect in order to grow together and meet in the middle. It is about equality and fairness, not tugging more one way or the other, but rather ending in a pleasing common ground.

Blessing

I would like to share with you a blessing for your marriage.
May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should. May life grant you also patience, tolerance and understanding.
May you always need one another… not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness.
May you want one another, but not out of lack.
May you entice one another, but not compel one another.
May you embrace one another, but not encircle one another.
May you succeed in all important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces.
Look for things to praise, often say, “I love you”, and take no notice of small faults.
May you have happiness and may you find it in making one another happy.
May you have love, and may you find it in loving one another.

Reading of “Litany” by Billy Collins

“You are the bread and the knife,
the crystal goblet and the wine.
You are the dew on the morning grass
and the burning wheel of the sun.
You are the white apron of the baker,
and the marsh birds suddenly in flight.
However, you are not the wind in the orchard,
the plums on the counter,
or the house of cards.
And you are certainly not the pine-scented air.
There is just no way that you are the pine-scented air.
It is possible that you are the fish under the bridge,
maybe even the pigeon on the general’s head,
but you are not even close
to being the field of cornflowers at dusk.
And a quick look in the mirror will show
that you are neither the boots in the corner
nor the boat asleep in its boathouse.
It might interest you to know,
speaking of the plentiful imagery of the world,
that I am the sound of rain on the roof.
I also happen to be the shooting star,
the evening paper blowing down an alley
and the basket of chestnuts on the kitchen table.
I am also the moon in the trees
and the blind woman’s tea cup.
But don’t worry, I’m not the bread and the knife.
You are still the bread and the knife.
You will always be the bread and the knife,
not to mention the crystal goblet and – somehow – the wine.”

In paying tribute to their love for one another,
Christen and Leigh have requested we
Recognize and honor those who are no longer with us in person
But grace us with their presence in spirit

We also honor those
Who are still refused the right to be wed
And are denied the social and legal benefits of marriage
While there have been great strides made
There is more to be done to reach the goal of true equality
And recognize the bond of love between any two people

As you soak in the serenity of the sea before you,
Please take a moment of silence for those we have recognized.

[Moment of silence]

Reading of Excerpt from “Still Life with Woodpecker.”

“Love is the ultimate outlaw. It just won’t adhere to any rules. The most any of us can do is to sign on as its accomplice. Instead of vowing to honor and obey, maybe we should swear to aid and abet. That would mean that security is out of the question. The words “make” and “stay” become inappropriate. My love for you has no strings attached. I love you for free.”

Consent

Leigh, do you give yourself totally to loving Bride, striving to do whatever you can to help her to feel happy and secure, treating her with kindness, understanding and respect for all the days before you?

Christen, do you give yourself totally to loving Groom, striving to do whatever you can to help him to feel happy and secure, treating him with kindness, understanding and respect for all the days before you?

Vows

Christen and Leigh read their own vows.

Leigh and Christen, nothing in life is easier than to say words, but nothing is harder than to actually live those words, day after day. What you decide here today, really needs to be reconfirmed tomorrow and the tomorrow after that, and an endless string of tomorrows after that. At the end of this ceremony in just a few moments, legally you will be husband and wife, but you still must decide every day that stretches before you, that you want to continue to grow in your marriage. Make such a decision and then keep on making it for when all is done at the periphery of life, the two things that matter the most are to love and to be loved.

Wine box:

Officiant says: “I’d like to draw your attention to the box in front Leigh and Christen. They have written letters to each other expressing their feelings as they begin their marriage. We will include these letters in the box along with a bottle of wine. Together we will seal this box, and on the happy occasion of their anniversary, they will open the box, read the letters, drink the wine, and add new letters to the box. As time passes the wine will age, like their relationship. But the box and its contents will represent the past, the present and the possibility of what lies ahead. As they go forth in their ever-evolving bond, they will have a chronicle of where they have been and the anticipation of where they are going. Each time they open the box, they will be in a new time and living new experiences, but they will continually be brought back to the essence of this day and the commitment they are making to each other.
Christen will you commit yourself to this undertaking?”
Me: “yes”
Officiant: “Leigh will you commit yourself to this undertaking?”
Him: “yes”
Officiant: “please seal the box together.”

Rings

May I have the rings, please.
These rings, by their circular shape are a symbol: they’re a symbol of the love that you feel in your hearts and that you give to each other this day, but they’re also a very important symbol of the unending love that will continue to exist in your lives and in your marriage, as evidenced by the phrase “Forever + Ever” which you have had stamped on them. And as you place this ring upon her finger repeat after me:

“Bride, with this ring, I commit myself to love and adore you forever and ever.”
“Groom, with this ring I commit myself to love and adore you forever and ever.”

Your two lives are now joined in one unbroken circle. Where ever you go, may you always return to one another in your togetherness. May you find in each other the love which all persons long for. May you grow in understanding and in compassion. May the home you enjoy together be such a place of sanctuary that many will find there a friend.

Pronunciation
Leigh and Christen, under the authority of the State of Hawaii, and in the name of love forever and ever, I do now pronounce you to be husband and wife.

Kiss
Would you like to seal your vows with a kiss?

Presentation
I now present to you Groom and Bride, husband and wife.

Recessional

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Spotlight.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I had another post in mind. But it hit a speedbump. Which is fine. I understand. But it brought up a valid point.

Weddings are intensely personal, private things. And yet, in the current technology-filled times, they aren’t. They’re on the blogosphere, they’re in the media. They’re EVERYWHERE.

Meg at A Practical Wedding wrote in a post some time ago about keeping some privacy in your wedding.

ESB tweeted about being super pissed if someone tweeted a sh*tty cellphone pic of your wedding.

Offbeat Bride has featured more than a couple weddings where the ceremony was just the couple and the reception included everyone else. Or where the couple whispered their vows to one another.

When our photos went live and our slideshow (have you watched it yet???) went up, I went crazy with emailing it to people and posting on Facebook. I even staged a viewing in my office.

But, some people aren’t that attention crazy. And maybe it’s not just about the attention.

For me, while (I’m an only child, so … derrr.) I do love attention, it’s more about sharing. Sharing with people who couldn’t be there, reminiscing with those that were. Sharing those great moments that not everyone sees on a day-to-day basis. Sharing something special.

I, personally, love to show everyone what an awesome time we had. How much love was in the air, how into karaoke we get and what a great bunch of people we had around us. I worked two damn years on the thing. Of course I want to show it off!

But there are people who would rather keep their weddings, marriages, intensely private. Who don’t want to share ideas, details or pictures. Who want to store them for their own little stash, to return to when they want to without people pestering them. To remember the moments for themselves without others weighing in or providing commentary. And that’s awesome. It’s special. And sweet.

Above all, the decision to shout about your wedding from the treetops or keep your photos hidden in a cubbyhole should be yours and your husbands.

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Compromise.

Hunting for an apartment is kind of like wedding planning.

You begin with a specific, ideal vision.

Wedding: Dress, decor, extras, theme, headpieces.

Apartment: Two bedrooms, decent counter space, allows dogs, less than $1,100, has fenced-in yard, big kitchen, utilities, two-year lease, close to bus stop, stand alone.

And then you look. At lots. Magazines, TV shows, books, movies, blogs, newspapers, websites. And then you look at prices. And talk to people, professional and not. And make lots of calls, send lots of emails.

And your idea evolves. $500 for a cake display? Maybe not. What about a sweet or mod or otherwise different dress? Maybe a head thingy made by a friend?

Or maybe it’s sacrificing a yard in order to be next to the dog park. Or paying $1,100 plus utilities, but getting a two-bedroom just a few blocks from the current digs. Or living in a four-unit complex, but having separate entrances and end unit. But it is available rightthisverysecond and the deposit is only a few hundred.

Either way, both are big life endeavors. It’s about finding the balance between what the ideal is and what reasonably fits without giving up too much of want you want. Maybe it’s paying $1,200 per month, utilities included, for a huge apartment with a yard but is inconvenient location-wise. Or shelling out $6000 but getting four days of photography and rights to the images. Maybe it’s finding that dress that just works and getting it altered just so.

As long as you’re happy and comfortable, it’s all good. Right?

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Lulu.

 

I’ve been trying to get my girls behind For Love and Lemons to send me some stuff so I could write up a rad post … but understandably, they’re super busy.

However, this insufferably impatient girl couldn’t wait any longer.

I love love love the look of the Lulu dress and think it would be absolutely perfect for a rehearsal dinner or even for a super fun Vegas/loft/rooftop wedding. It’s cut is really flattering because it hits at the smallest part of the waist. Plus the sheer panel is uber alluring.

Gillian and Laura are constantly coming up with some sweet fashions. Check ’em out.

xo

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Spoiler Alert!

The photogs of rad posted a double teaser. Check it out here.

They rock my socks and my shoes.

xo

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Cyclical.

It’s fun to watch right now. My friends who got engaged about the same time I did are getting married. And new friends are engaged. And in a couple years’, or a year’s, time, they’ll get married. And surely by then, even more friends will be engaged. And the cycle will begin again.

I have one friend who is getting married this weekend and I’m thrilled beyond for her. I have three more who’ve all gotten hitched between now and when Aussie and I did. I have one who is so unbelievably mum about her planning that it’s driving me crazy with anticipation. I have one very, very special friend who is getting married next summer. And she’s just beginning the planning process.

I’ve watched with sheer enthrallment as they’ve experienced similar pains, excitements, trials and tribulations as to what I experienced. I get pangs of flashbacks as the stress sets in and as the giddiness overflows.

Congratulations to all of you. May your love forever overshadow the hell of planning and may your wedding day be just one step toward a lifetime of happiness.

Photo Via The Knotty Bride.
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Silver and Gold.

Shaner and I used to watch this video when we were kids … like nonstop. Really to the point where we wore out the VHS.

But there was a particular song in it I have never forgotten.

Make new friends / but keep the old / One is silver / the other is gold.

There’s obv. more to it than that. Anywho, seems as though every time I look at photos from our wedding, photos of our friends, those lyrics pop into my mind.

And that rocks.

One of the first things I noticed when we logged on to The Face in the few days after the wedding was that my homies and his homies were becoming homies in Interwebland. And there have since been a spate of conversations, comments, etc. amongst them.

And watching it is awesome. My friends mean the world to me, as his do to him. So having our satellite families joining forces in such a way, and reflecting back at how well they all mixed, warms this chick to the toes.

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Over It.

Planning sucks. Srsly. Two years of wedding planning. Planning papers. Planning sports sections. Planning apartment moves. Planning halfway-around-the-world moves.

Shit, planning dinner even sucks.

Bitch, bitch. Grumble, grumble.

Chips and gravy or go out for fish and chips?

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