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Broke-Assin’.

Oh, hey. Wanna hear somethin’ cool?

My first contribution to The Broke-Ass Bride went up today.

I’m sharing all the deets of a pink-and-zebra jazzy luuurrrrvvveee-filled wedding.

Check it.

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Wedinated: Kim and Rob. Her Take.

We heard from Rob the other day about his and Kim’s traditional Catholic wedding with an Elvis DJ. And, now, since it’s their six-year anniversary, we’ll hear Kim’s take. I’ve emailed with Kim for quite some time now and I know how much she’s grown during their marriage. But there are a few things that haven’t changed: Her love for her family, her beliefs and her ever-evolving love for Rob.

Happy anniversary, you two. xoxo

Name: Kimberley

Age: Currently 27, but age 21 on wedding day

Occupation: Predominantly a housewife and stay at home mother to three children, but studying to become a high school teacher.

Wedding location: St Joseph’s Catholic Church, Subiaco, Western Australia
Reception at Observation City, Scarborough WA

Wedding Date: 18th December 2005

Length of engagement: 1 year (to the day)

Tell me about your wedding: We had a traditional Sunday Catholic mass complete with the Sunday readings. Initially when we were planning this we thought the gospel reading might have been the one where Joseph finds out Mary was pregnant and decides to call off the engagement, which we thought would be slightly ironic, but turns out they were different. We had standard Catholic vows that I was frantically practicing the morning of, as I knew Rob had already memorized his and I didn’t want to be the one who made a mistake! Our wedding mass was performed in a beautiful old church and many of our friends and family actively participated which we are eternally grateful for. We had two priests celebrate mass for us and were blessed
with a beautiful homily, as they knew us well.

We had friends and family ushering, reading, bringing up the gifts, photographing, videoing, alter serving, singing and as our pianist. One of my aunts made my veil and another two aunts made my jewelry; my tiara has now been converted into a bracelet, which I love; and we had friends help with hair, nails and makeup. A family friend made our cake and the flowers decorating it were made by my aunt in Trinidad and were posted over especially for us. We still have those flowers and they’ve adorned the baptismal cakes of our children. Another friend of ours put together our wedding booklets. And our bridal party was filled with family and friends. My youngest cousin was our flower girl and she actually wore my first communion dress on the day.
I loved my wedding dress and it made me feel like a princess for the day. It took four hoops to make it sit properly, and it was very hot under all that material on such a warm day, but I loved every minute in it.

What was your favorite part of your wedding? It’s so hard to sum it up into one little bit, but I think it would be completing our vows and receiving the Eucharist as husband and wife. Rob also organised to have the bells at the church rung as we walked out as they do in all those movies, which was a highlight for me. At our reception I was surprised to see an ice carving of two swans, which was my brother’s wedding present to us and another special memory.

What disasters did you avert … or not avert and how did you deal with it?
As Rob mentioned, the wedding photo location was left to chance, but we have beautiful wedding photos and were lucky enough to have them on the “big screen” at our reception later. I remember walking down the aisle and thinking Rob’s jacket was too big for him, but that wasn’t a disaster. I think the biggest thing was that it was just a really hot day, especially in the church, which was uncontrollable and something we weathered with lots of water. At the reception, I think some of our CDs got mixed up, and our after dinner dance music was put on prior to dinner. With my family, you can’t put dance music on and expect people to sit down, so my sister and brother got up onto the dance floor first, and we just HAD to follow (or at least I did, and dragged Rob along!). We had dancing before dinner, which although wasn’t planned, was great fun.

Was there anything you would have done differently, or do you have any regrets about how something went? No regrets. At the end of the day, some things don’t turn out exactly as you planned, but that’s life and no big deal.

What was your biggest challenge in planning? Trying to do it all whilst completing our final year of university together and writing my thesis for my honours program. I was in Melbourne the weekend before the wedding as part of my honours presentation and Rob was left to complete all the place cards by himself, though I must say he did a really good job.

What lessons did you learn from planning or from the wedding itself?
I think the most important lesson I took away from the process is that after it’s all said and done, a wedding is about two people and their family and friends coming together to celebrate their bond of love and all the trappings end up being far less significant although it’s easy to get caught up in them.

What was your biggest “holyamazeballzI’mfreakininlove!” moment? It would probably be having completed our vows and realizing we were husband and wife, no matter what.

What were your top 5 favorite things about your wedding?
1. My husband
2. Our family and friends that made the day so special and the outpouring of emotion that accompanies weddings.

Brotherly love.

3. The wedding bells
4. Our ice swans
5. My princess dress.
6. The dance floor

Top 5 least favorite?
1. Not getting to the dessert buffet! We’d gone outside for some sunset photos and all the profiteroles had disappeared by the time we got back (although I managed to steal one from my bridesmaid!)
2. The heat
3. It all being over so quickly

What was the worst piece of wedding advice you received?
We came back to our room to find some notes left on our bed by our helpful bridal party! We were asked a few times if we were sure, mainly due to our age.

The best?
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8

This was our wedding speech and I think it sums up everything one needs in marriage. We were also told that we would grow and learn together and find ourselves at a stage where we’d be able to understand one another with a shared glance across the room. We’re getting there!

If you’ve been married for more than a few years, what have been some challenges?
Having three children together, being a housewife, having a student for a husband, moving, living in a country town, more moving, studying myself, having a husband who works long hours, having children who miss their dad, having children who have personalities of their own to add to the mix, finding time to spend with on another and not taking the little things for granted. The list goes on. It’s challenging to make all the sacrifices that go along with marriage and family, but all of them are worth it.

What from your wedding vows/ceremony still holds the truest?
“I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.”

Any other bits of wisdom?
You know that “holyamazeballzI’mfreakininlove!” moment? I look back now after six years of marriage and marvel at how much our love has changed and grown. The love I had for Rob on our wedding day was miniscule compared to the love we share now, yet there we were vowing to spend our lives together. We’ve both grown and changed over the years and had to accommodate one another’s growth. I’ve learnt that the wedding day is just the first day of marriage and it’s the actions and decisions you make in those coming days, weeks, months and years that shape and strengthen your marriage. It’s not one “holyamazeballzI’mfreakininlove!” moment; it’s a multitude of moments that build on one another over the years.

With their youngest.

It’s been the look on Rob’s face at the birth of each of our children. It’s been my pride in him when he joined the Royal Australian Navy to serve his country and provide for our family. It’s watching him put the time and effort into becoming a medical practitioner and being able to celebrate these milestones with him. It’s watching our children grow into intelligent, strong-willed, creative individuals and knowing that we’ve done this together. It’s been weathering our challenges together and having our love mature over the years.

At our wedding.

I also think it’s vitally important to ensure you learn how to communicate effectively with one another. Not just talking about how your day was, but your hopes, dreams and aspirations. The difficulties you’re experiencing, the fears you have. You need to learn how to actively listen and respond to your spouse. Communication is key to marital happiness. I’d also suggest that you have “date nights” or something similar. Although the “romantic” love tends to fade over the years and mature into something much more significant, it’s important not to take one another for granted, particularly when children come along. Setting aside “date nights” helps to remind you of this.

Wedding photos: Paul Bui
Photo at our wedding: Persimmon Images
Others: Personal

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Over There (Pt. II).

YES. We have arrived.

Kat put our wedding up on Persimmon Images‘ blog today.

CHECK IT.

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Wedinated: Kim and Rob.

Now here’s a treat. I asked Rob if he’d be willing to put it all out there and fill out a Wedinated post. The first evah from the dude’s side. I don’t think a single bone in my body really, truly thought he’d agree to it. But lo and behold!

Rob was one of Aussie’s g-men/Usual Suspects. Kim did a reading during our ceremony. Kim and I grew super close over emailing back and forth for months before the wedding. I instantly fell in love with both of them when we met in person.

Also … I think you’ll recognize a couple others in these pics.

Name: Robert

Age: Currently 27, but age 21 on wedding day

Occupation: Medical practitioner

Wedding location: St Joseph’s Catholic Church, Subiaco, Western Australia
Reception at Observation City, Scarborough WA

Wedding Date: 18th December 2005

Length of engagement: 1 year (to the day)

Tell me about your wedding: We had a traditional Catholic Mass, so most things were standardized (I’m not complaining – I would have sucked at writing vows).

What was your favorite part of your wedding?
There were a few (in no particular order):
1. Seeing Kim at the top of the aisle.
2. Getting her dad to choke up
3. The help and support of so many of our friends and family in most aspects of planning and execution.

What disasters did you avert … or not avert and how did you deal with it?

The biggest one I can think of was not having anywhere planned to do photos between the ceremony and reception. It had been thought of and then forgotten somewhere in the planning process. Luckily we had an awesome photographer who used what we had to come up with some really nice photos.

I also wore the wrong jacket through the ceremony, which was a size too big. By the time I realized, it was too late to swap back, so I was stuck with it. Oops!

Was there anything you would have done differently, or do you have any regrets about how something went?
No regrets, and I can’t think of anything I would have done differently. Not everything was 100% perfect, but it never is, and it doesn’t matter!

What was your biggest challenge in planning?

1. Trying to do it all while studying full-time.
2. We tried to minimize costs wherever possible by doing stuff ourselves. This is great in theory but takes a lot more time.

What lessons did you learn from planning or from the wedding itself?

Don’t take it too seriously. When you spend so much time preparing for something this big it’s easy to get caught up trying to make sure everything goes perfectly. I don’t think you can properly enjoy yourself if you’re worrying about that stuff the whole day.

What was your biggest “holyamazeballzI’mfreakininlove!” moment?
That’s tough because I’m not really the type of person that thinks that way. But seeing Kim walk down the aisle is probably as close to choking up as I’ve been. Since then, the birth of our three kids and the way she deals with being a mum day-to-day takes the cake.

What were your top 5 favorite things about your wedding?

1. Our unconventional Elvis-impersonator DJ.
2. At the reception we had a projector screen, on which were photos from earlier in the day for everyone to see. That was impromptu, but pretty cool.
3. NOT being burned during the best man speech


4. The dine-in McDonald’s cheeseburger meal 10 minutes before the ceremony started really hit the spot.
5. The bride (not in that order of course!)

Top 5 least favorite?

1. Missing out on the dessert buffet!
2. A couple of little things about the reception didn’t work out how I had planned which annoyed me a bit. I don’t think anyone else noticed though.
3. It went too quickly!

What was the worst piece of wedding advice you received?
That one is easy – “Are you sure you’re old enough/ready?”

The best?
Someone reminded me that our wedding was about us and to try and enjoy ourselves rather than spend the day trying to please everyone else. I still don’t believe them, but it sounds like good advice!

If you’ve been married for more than a few years, what have been some challenges?

For me the biggest challenges have been learning not to be selfish and so stubbornly independent (I’m still learning).
Also, studying full time and having kids is a bitch, but I wouldn’t change it.

What from your wedding vows/ceremony still holds the truest?

“In good times and in bad”

Any other bits of wisdom? not really 😛

Photos: Paul Bui

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Wedinated: Rebecca and Evan.

Bec is an old friend of Aussie’s. When I snuck some looks at her pics, I knew that there was no way I could not not have her on here. They’re so pretty and vintage-y. Their day looked like a swoonable old-school love story. Just the kind that makes me go “d-awwwww.” Without further ado …

Name: Rebecca

Age: 27

Occupation: Marketing coordinator

Wedding location: The Belvoir

Wedding Date: 6th of March 2011

Length of engagement: 7 months

Tell me about your wedding: We had a traditional wedding, held outside in a garden. The vows were the old school promises (without obey 😉 ) with a lovely speech by the pastor about there being three people in our relationship – Evan, Me and God. After we exchanged the rings, our parents came up and prayed for us. It was short and sweet.

What was your favorite part of your wedding? I loved getting ready with the girls and my dad, and the little moments I had alone with my groom.

What disasters did you avert … or not avert and how did you deal with it? There were confusions over family photos so as a result some were missed. Also I had given the venue the name cards in order of where they were sitting, however they went by the order of the names on the seating chart list, and it was averted as a week earlier I had also sent an email with the order so they went back and changed it.

The bridesmaids dresses were not finished till 3 days before the wedding so that was a little stressful too. OH also the jeweler lost our ring order and we got them the Friday before the wedding hahaha!

Was there anything you would have done differently, or do you have any regrets about how something went? I was not too fussed on the details at the time as all I really cared about was marrying Evan, now I wish I had spent a little more time planning ( I was living overseas for the first 3 months of the engagement so I could not do much). I wish I didn’t worry so much about how much everyone else was enjoying themselves and enjoyed it more myself! But all in all it was a great afternoon / evening.

What was your biggest challenge in planning? Time.

What lessons did you learn from planning or from the wedding itself? Just go with the flow, know what you can compromise on and know what you definitely want.

What was your biggest “holyamazeballzI’mfreakininlove!” moment? How right it felt, I had no cold feet moments, no second guesses, me and Evan just make sense.

What were your top 5 favorite things about your wedding?
Marrying Evan
My dress
Walking down the Aisle
The people
Rings

Top 5 least favorite?
The stress on the day
Family Photo chaos
That’s all!

What was the worst piece of wedding advice you received? none

The best? Get a videographer because the day goes so fast!

What from your wedding vows/ceremony still holds the truest? Being there for each other no matter what.

Any other bits of wisdom? Get a videographer because the day goes so fast!
Relax and take it all in.
Also try not to put too much pressure on the day because in the end it is just one day of the rest of your life together.

Venue: The Belvoir Homestead
Photography: Wheatbelt Photography
Cake: Glory Box Wedding Cakes
Dresses: Cupids Bridal
Flowers: Devine Creations Jodee
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APW Strikes Again.

Today’s APW saw the last one and raised it by quite a bit.

Valeria lost her father during her wedding planning. She planned a destination wedding that was “in the middle” of her and her groom’s families. She made her own freaking dress.

The post, one of the most level-headed and sad yet blissfully happy I’ve ever read, comes in two parts. Check it out here and here.

xo

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Wedinated: Gabrielle and Aaron.

Squee!!! My first Australia post!!! Gab is wise. Very wise. Reading through her responses has almost a calming effect because she gets what’s important. While it’s fun to have the details, what matters most is the relationship, the reason why you’re coming together. Everything doesn’t have to be perfect as long as there is love. Real love.
Gab sent me so many photos … it was so hard to pick.  Beautiful.

Name: Gabrielle Newhill

Age: 28, both of us

Occupation: Aaron is a diesel mechanic working out on the mines in Karratha. I’m a mother of 2 so I’m EVERYTHING.

Wedding location: We got married in Dongara, Western Australia. Its about 400km (248.5 miles) north of Perth. It’s a little town Aaron and I have lived in a few times now and both our kids where born there, so it was somewhat a special location for us. Our first weekend away together was to Dongara. We went for the blessing of the fleet, as Dongara is a major fishing location. It was a weekend that changed our lives.

Wedding Date: We got married on the 2nd of April, 2011.

Length of engagement: Well depends how you look at that one!! Aaron, or we, decided to make it a real deal on the 2nd of December, 2010, on a drive back from a weekend in Dongara to be honest! But we were kind of on and off again dating since we were 17 yrs old. We have had the craziest relationship I have even known of, this is the first time we ever been together long enough to even think about getting hitched!

About your wedding: We got married in a little old church that has stood in that town for over 100 years. We had the sweetest minister. He made the whole thing feel so natural and fun. Very understanding man … couldn’t have asked for anyone else to marry us. I wrote our vows, short and sweet, just us. I kept our ceremony booklet so that we can use the same service to renew our vows later on. Our reception was at the local bowling club which made for a really relaxed environment. We didn’t decorate much at all. I wanted it to feel like it was at the bowling club. We hired a jukebox from Geraldton and it worked out great (ps if you do this hide the key so no one can change the music). We had the cake made in Geraldton at a cake shop. I grabbed all the decorations for it from Spotlight. We hired a catering company in Geraldton to do a tapas menu, and my GOD it was amazing. So glad I put the extra money into the food and not the booze! As you can probably tell we had to do the whole thing on a very small budget as we paid for it ourselves from our savings.

What was your favorite part of your wedding? Well that is complicated. I can’t say I had just one moment that was my favorite; as a mother my most moving moment was as I pulled up at the church and got to see my 2 babies standing there waiting for me. My children are my world so seeing them all dressed up and holding hands waiting for me made my eyes water.

Only moment of the day I was overwhelmed enough to want to cry with happiness; BUT as a bride as a women on her day, it was a real big deal to see my “to be husband” after all these years together fumble over his words at the altar as he looked me in the eyes and said his vows to me. My husband is a typical Aussie. That was the first time I have seen him so vulnerable in our whole life together. It was very strong moment that I will never forget.

What disasters did you avert … or not avert and how did you deal with it? Well some things you can’t avoid. Like family. There has always been bad blood between them all and putting them all together always ends with dramas, so it was UNavoidable to say the least. But the whole town lost power for the hours before the wedding which nearly gave us all heart attacks as we couldn’t get hairdryers, curlers, AIRCONS {eds note: The first time I read this phrase, many moons ago in an email, I was like WTF??? It’s air conditioners, for those of you not versed in Aussie speak.}, music, fridges … nothing running. We ran all our hair stuff from a generator that we borrowed, then had to move that genny to the boys place so they could get ready, THEN had to run it to the church so we could get power to  run the music to walk down the aisle too.


I have to admit it makes for a laugh now but it was so hot me and the girls were in our undies till our car pulled up. It was so hot we couldn’t put our dresses on and our makeup and hair was doing crazy things.

Was there anything you would have done differently, or do you have any regrets about how something went? You can’t regret anything in life, that’s my rule!! BUT if I had my time again, the girls and me and my man and his boys plus my kids of course would have just run away for a wild weekend and eloped!! For sure!!! It could have maybe been a bit more structured when it came to photos maybe, but then again it was my girlfriend that did it for me and she travelled all that way for me, so there is no way I would complain about it. I love all my photos. Classic and very true, they are.

What was your biggest challenge in planning? Doing the planning from Perth, where we live, I didn’t meet our caterers until the night! And being a very small town in WA, I was not able to do half the things I wanted as I couldn’t get it up there or locally, so that made me have to change a lot of things around and find other ways to do things!

What lessons did you learn from planning or from the wedding itself? Um… go with your gut, and never do something just to please anyone!! If there was ever a day to stand up for yourself it should be this day! And that at the end of it all, love what it WAS, not what it COULD HAVE BEEN.

What was your biggest “holyamazeballzI’mfreakininlove!” moment? The moment I took his hand at the altar. He was shaking so much. I new it was real at that moment. Its like for a small moment there I could feel both our hearts pounding away.

What were your top 5 favorite things about your wedding? Getting a make-up artist and a hairdresser to come do us up for the wedding. We were not going to do it at all because of how much we had already stretched ourselves for the wedding but like 2 days beforehand my partner said to me, go for it why not, you deserve it. So we did and it was well worth it.
I loved my dress, and the dresses for the bridesmaids, took a lot of running around and a lot of failed ideas but it all worked well.
My handmade flowers, I ordered them online from America because there was no way I could get flowers up there at all! I love them so much.


The wedding car that was also a last minute thing. Friends of ours knew someone who knew someone and a lovely man in town had an old favorite hanging out in his shed and he let us use it for the day … well to be honest, he let us borrow him as well. Perfect gentleman. He was well prepared for the event. Opened the door for me, helped me with my dress, was always checking on me at the photos. He was the kind of guy that, well, just doesn’t exist anymore! I couldn’t have thanked him enough, nor would the day have been the same without him.
The songs we had at the church. It was so us. I will never forget the sound of the guitar solo as I walked into the church, its was the most perfect musical interpretation of what I feel, if I had to turn it into music.

Top 5 least favorite? Oh wow, touchy subject with not-so easy answers.
I was disappointed with how others behaved throughout the evening. It’s very hard to feel special when there is so much disaster and conflict present. To put it simply, I wanted to hold up a big sign saying HELLO this is OUR wedding not a stage for “Days of Our Lives” drama. But hey, if there’s one thing I know its that you cannot control others actions, you can only control your own. It is very hard to see something so beautiful turn into something so ugly due to others actions.

What was the worst piece of wedding advice you received? None. I didn’t get any advice like that at all. Um depends though, I got a lot of input about how I should do the wedding or more WHAT I HAD to do at the wedding. There is no reason you have to do anything as far as I can see; it’s your day it’s your relationship so make it as unique as you are.

The best? Um that hey I can always get divorced if I change my mind hahahaha… No um best advice I got was when it all turned to the dark side at the reception and my beautiful wedding started to look like the start of a seen from”Fight Club,” a friend of mine said to me, don’t worry about it. Simple but true. I grabbed my husband’s hand and said this has nothing to do with us, lets go home. And that’s what we did. And to be honest, best thing we did together as husband and wife so far.

If you’ve been married for more than a few years, what have been some challenges? Well we have been together so long and I can promise you there has been some hard times, and we have had to endure a lot together already so here’s hoping it gets easier from here in, but the most drama we have had so far has been changing my name over, banks accounts, drivers license, school stuff for the kids, all our billing info …its been full on with all that so far. And I can’t get used to using my new name lol.
What from your wedding vows/ceremony still holds the truest? “With all that I am and all that I have I honor you.”
Being married for me, or the idea of being married, is not a fairytale ending to a love story. Its a promise that you will always be true and love that person for ALL they are to choose to stand beside them through life, and all that life will bring you.


Any other bits of wisdom? Well to be honest I am far from wise. I am completely learning as I go, so my only comments would be, trust yourself whole heartedly. You are the only person making the choices in your life. Trust THAT part of yourself; look within for all parts of your wedding, your marriage, and your life. As far fetched as it seems, no matter what happens before during or after the wedding, it will be an adventure worth experiencing. Even if it doesn’t turn out so perfect, and for me and my life and my relationship it wouldn’t be ours if it didn’t have a bunch of challenges in it. It kind of the way it goes for me. And I accept the challenge!!!
Oh and this: blood does not mean anything if it doesn’t pass through a heart. Don’t do any of it for anyone else. My partner and I come from very broken families and trying to FAKE it never works for anyone. Love is a word people have forgotten how to feel. For others or themselves.

All photos by Emmaline Yearsley. She can be reached at emmalineyearsley@gmail.com.
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Sanity.

I’m in the midst of preparing a new Wedinated post (from Australia!!!), but in the meantime I wanted to share this Wedding Graduate post from A Practical Wedding.

It’s … really smart. And it deals with the rightthatverymoment worries I’m already dreading. No music during the ceremony? All the real work, the sweat, the effort being lumped into an indiscernible pile with the potential of no clear future? The stress, the fear, the anxiety?

It’s a really honest post. And something I think even the most organized among us still has a moment of experiencing.

xo

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