Monthly Archives: May 2011

Here’s a Jumping Photo I Can *almost* Get Behind.

We all know how I feel about jumping photos.

But … this one featured on Ruffled today is pretty rad.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Via Ruffled via Lizelle Lotter Photography.

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Wedinated and Vegoosed: Kate and Trevor.

So this next real wedding post is hilarious but also so filled with young love and the utter anticipation and eagerness of Kate and Trevor to just get it done and be married. Also? It’s very much an example that whether you plan or not, something may go wrong. And you can either roll with the punches or you can choose to have a fit. Kate and Trevor really rolled with the punches and when Kate first explained their wedding to me, it was impossible not to have a full belly laugh about it. And while they don’t have any photos from their Vegas nuptials, (which, BTW, I really wish they did just so I could see her rockin’ outfit!) they have some pretty cool old-school ones of their confirmation back in Jackson.

Name: Kate Cope

Age: 25

Occupation: Office Manager

Wedding location:Las Vegas, followed by a confirmation in Jackson,WY

Wedding Date: June 7th 2004

Length of engagement: Approx 10 months

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Tell me about your wedding: Our wedding in Vegas was the most ridiculous thing ever. The “Chapel of Dreams” was anything but.  I was moving down to Arizona to be with Trevor and we knew that we were going to live together and we’d already planned on getting married, so we decided to stop in Vegas and make it official (tho some people might say we eloped).  We had a basic ceremony (no Elvis, but we did have a tiny, heavily accented Asian woman to help things along) in a tiny house that had been converted to a chapel within walking distance of the courthouse.  We wrote our own vows and because we had no rings, we exchanged kisses and little pieces of silver elastic I had saved from a Christmas gift.

Our confirmation was done in November after we were married at my parents house in Jackson.  At this ceremony I had all the fixins, bouquet, cake, friends etc.  It was another traditional ceremony where we again wrote our own vows except this time we exchanged the rings we had purchased after our Vegas wedding.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What was your favorite part of your wedding? Our Vegas wedding was definitely fun filled, looking back my favorite part is how many times the lady called us by the wrong names (Christopher and Danielle), it was at least 3 different times!  Also our wedding attire was pretty fantastic. I wore a 1950’s style “homemaker” dress that was white with blue and yellow flowers, my Chucks and Jack Skellington hair chopsticks, Trevor wore Chucks, black pants, a shiny red shirt and a sweet Jack Skellington tie. At the time, I would have said getting out of that chapel was my favorite part!

My favorite part of our confirmation was my bouquet which had dark orange and maroon calla lilies which are my favorite flower.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What disasters did you avert … or not avert and how did you deal with it? Our Vegas wedding was disastrous on the whole, the “chapel” was a bedroom that had been converted with a cheap trellis and plastic flowers, and our music consisted of a tinny boom box playing the wedding march.  I’m still not sure how a boom box managed to produce that warbling old 8-track feeling, but it did perfectly.  In the video of our wedding you can see our “minister” counting out the beats in her head before she headed back to turn off the boom box.  She then called us by the wrong names and when we corrected her said “well who are you then?”… stellar!

That lovely moment was followed by a prayer that went on and on and was mostly unintelligible, in the video you can clearly see me trying to stifle my laughter and Trevor mouthing several times during the ceremony “I’m so sorry”.  Also in the video, during the prayer the lady had her hand up as if blessing us… she was tiny tho so it looks like she’s trying to grab my boob. After Trevor and I exchanged vows, kisses and rings, which in my mind means we’re married, our “minister” sat us down and gave us a 20 minute Jesus talk that was about 19 minutes longer than our ceremony had been.
Then there was the random man who poked his head in during the ceremony.  After our ordeal we were taken in a back room to pay, there we were called by the wrong names again and we were told it was “customary” to tip the minister.  She didn’t get a tip, we didn’t get any photos… but we did get a VHS copy of our wedding.
That’s right in 2004 we received a VHS copy of our wedding, which we then had to buy a VCR to watch it on.  In many ways I am so glad that Trevor and I were the only witnesses to this event, but the video and story make for great talking points!  I guess I dealt with the whole thing by laughing, the whole thing has become substantially funnier over the years but it was still pretty funny then.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Our confirmation was much smoother.  I think we only really had 2 major problems.  The first, one of my dogs took a bite out of my cake. Of course, I was horrified but with some rearrangement of the flowers on the bottom tier, no one had a clue.  I was also a little worried because the cake was chocolate but there seemed to be no ill effects on the dog.  The other major problem was when our videographer caught on fire.  That’s right!  He leaned back into some candles while shooting our vows and his shirt instantly ignited.  My poor friend, who is horribly afraid of fire, was standing right next to him but was too scared to put him out.  Luckily his wife jumped in and beat out the fire before he was burned too badly.  In the end only the shirt and a small patch of skin were injured in the blaze.  That also makes for a lovely video moment!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Was there anything you would have done differently, or do you have any regrets about how something went? If I had it do to over, I would have checked out some different chapels in Vegas.  If you are planning on getting married in Vegas you should know that outside the courthouse there are about 75 different people who are all intent on getting you to their chapel.  Fights will break out, you will be grabbed, yelled at and generally traumatized by these people who want to “put you in a limo right now and take you to the chapel”.  They will descend upon you the minute your shoes touch the sidewalk in front of the courthouse with marriage license in hand.  They will yell obscenities at the other chapel people and generally behave in a frightening manner.  We were NOT prepared for this and so, taken by surprise we went to the closest chapel.  Looking back I think I should have just asked if they had Elvis.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What was your biggest challenge in planning? I didn’t really plan either my wedding or my confirmation… I guess I really lucked out there!

What lessons did you learn from planning or from the wedding itself? I learned that your dream wedding may not happen, but if you’re marrying the one you love it doesn’t matter if you get called by the right name or if someone catches on fire… you’re just happy and in love!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What was your biggest “holyamazeballzI’mfreakininlove!” moment? I fell for Trevor the first time I saw him but I realized I truly loved him on our first date, while talking about books… nerdy, I know!  The first time I knew Trevor truly loved me was after his first disastrous meeting with my mom.  When he picked up the phone the next day and treated me just as sweetly as ever, I knew he really really loved me!

What were your top 5 favorite things about your wedding?
Our wedding outfits (Vegas)
My bouquet (Jackson)
Not getting Christopher and Danielle’s wedding license (we were SURE we would)
Running through Vegas to our car, laughing hysterically about our terrible wedding
Our silver elastic rings, I still have those somewhere

Top 5 least favorite? You know what?  I could bitch about everything, and I think I probably have, but both my ceremonies were beautiful in their own way and I wouldn’t trade them for anything!!

What was the worst piece of wedding advice you received? I didn’t really get any wedding advice, people were just kind of shocked and horrified that I was getting married so young .

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The best? My Grandma told my Mom (and then she told me); “if you can stand the thought of washing his dirty underwear for the rest of your life, you’re ready to get married”… on second thought this might belong under worst wedding advice!

If you’ve been married for more than a few years, what have been some challenges? Living with someone is hard, seeing someone every day makes it really easy to lash out at them or take a bad day out on them, apologies, though hard to make are crucial.  I married my best friend, so when we face challenges, from outside (or inside) of our relationship, there is no one I’d rather have by my side!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What from your wedding vows/ceremony still holds the truest? Everything, since we wrote our own vows, we wrote was truly in our hearts.  We genuinely respect, love and honor each other.  Also I’m considering changing my name to Danielle J

Any other bits of wisdom? Go for it! If you truly love someone and want to be with them, don’t let anyone stand in your way.  When I got married at 18 the first question anyone asked was when I was due.  Trevor and I have been married almost 7 years now and while we hope to have kids, we have none so far.  No one else’s opinion matters and you don’t have to validate your marriage to anyone!

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Things To Come.

I’ve been a bad blogger as of late. Have been sort of melting down about some wedding stuff. We had to switch coordinators because our original one at the hotel is going to a wedding on the same day as ours. The transition  hasn’t been easy, per se. So I’ve been bogged down in trying to match up all the correspondence from the last (almost!!!) two years with what they have now. No small task, but we’re getting there.

Work has also been … daunting. Many office vacations make for less days off for yours truly. Which is fine, it’s just a lot. Whatevs.

Anywho, we’ve managed to get *thisclose* to having everything.

Also??? And this is exciting!!! I’ve got a couple more real wedding posts in the pipelines. Two Vegas ones, one of which was a quick just-the-two-of-them affair. AND!!!! I’ve got at least one international post. Possibly another, but still waiting to hear.

One thing I’ve noticed so far is they’ve all been … destination weddings! I in no way planned on this, but hey, it’s relevant! And pretty freaking rad.

So … stay tuned.

xoxo

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Wedinated: Ashley and Mike

Ashley has been a friend of mine for a loooooooonnngggg time. Like, a really long time, if you didn’t pick that up. She would come to Jackson from Florida every summer to spend it with her dad and our families would spend nearly every weekend up at Jackson Lake camping. For many summers during my childhood, she would be the only other kid connection I would have for weeks at a time. So, obviously, we were great friends. I’ve kind of known Mike for about as long, but not nearly as well. Mike and Ashley were high school sweethearts and really epitomize it. I was broken-hearted that I couldn’t attend their wedding. Not only was she the first of my friends to tie the knot, but looking at the pics it looked like a blast. Alas at the time, a plane ticket from Boston to J-Hole was not in the cards. Anywho, not only are they a gorgeous couple, but they’re really great for one another. I got to see both of them (together!!!) this past Christmas and it made me so happy. Ashley is a total goof, which is a breath of fresh air sometimes.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Name: Ashley and Mike

Age: 28 (29 on June 4th)

Occupation: Affiliate Marketing Manager for FramesDirect.com

Wedding location: Jackson Lake Lodge, Jackson, WY

Wedding Date: 9/3/2006

Length of engagement: We got engaged on July 20th, 2005 and married on Sept 3rd, 2006…so…..over a year, ha ha

Tell me about your wedding: Rev. [Paul] Hayden performed our ceremony. Having a religious figure of some kind was not a requirement for either of us. I wanted some kind of “Christian” something or another and we felt our grandparents needed and would appreciate more religion in our ceremony. Therefore we chose the hip and cool Rev Hayden.

We did not write our own vows. I’m not good at expressing my emotions and, honestly, prefer not too publicly. I did request to have the word “obey” removed and I wanted my name to be said first in the “I now pronounce you Mr. and Mrs. Ashley and Michael DiPrisco” part. Thinking about that now, almost 5 years later, that seems silly. {Ed.’s note: Not silly … and I’m totally doing the same thing.} At the time, however, I think I was having a “I don’t want to lose my identity” moment.

We also chose not to have an aisle to walk down. Being a tad nontraditional (I didn’t wear a veil either and let’s be honest, we were already living together) we had the family and bridal party enter in from the side.
Being from the same town and having too many years of bad history on my side of the family, we avoided any kind of Bride and Groom’s side seating. Instead we had 3 sections with 2 walkways. My bridesmaids also chose to wear stilettos. It wouldn’t have been very nice of me to ask them to walk off of the pavement, through the grass and up the grassy aisle. Although, maybe the lodge would have given us a discount for aerating their lawn with the girls’ heels.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What was your favorite part of your wedding? Honestly, I don’t think I can narrow it down to just 1 part, thing or event… as cheesy as it sounds, it was perfect.

The majority of our families were able to be there and everyone was in good health. The weather was absolutely perfect. My parents were extremely generous during the entire process and it turned out to be a wonderful event.

I am glad we decided to have a receiving line. We went back and forth about whether or not to do it, but I’m glad we did. We had a chance to thank everyone for coming and that was important to us.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What disasters did you avert … or not avert and how did you deal with it? Weather was good – thank God. We didn’t have a backup plan for rain. Everyone was also on their best behavior. 😉

Was there anything you would have done differently, or do you have any regrets about how something went? No regrets but yes, we would do a few things differently. First, I would have a different dress…or a better bustle. I loved the way my dress looked but it was heavy, hot and my bustle (1 button) broke right after the ceremony. Just bad planning on my part.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What was your biggest challenge in planning? It was very challenging to plan a wedding from afar. We were living in Mississippi and planning a wedding in Wyoming = crazy. I headed to Jackson 6 weeks before the wedding to finalize some details and the wedding turned out better than we could have imagined, but it was challenging.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What lessons did you learn from planning or from the wedding itself? I learned that I LOVE to plan stuff. Ya ya, big surprise. I’m not sure that I learned any lessons but I did learn things I didn’t know before. An example would be that everything is negotiable if you have the time and energy to negotiate.
Sorry I don’t have any deep and inspirational lessons to share. {Ed.’s note: Pffft.}

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What was your biggest “holyamazeballzI’mfreakininlove!” moment? Ha ha, can one have such a moment at the ripe age of 16? To layer on the Velveeta again, I think the moment I first knew we’d date for a while was during our first kiss. Not only was he super-hot but he could kiss too! Ok, so I guess that would be lust.

Other than that specific moment I have several other events that just solidified and grew my feelings for him. When he went off to basic training after high school graduation he wrote me a letter every day. A real letter, on paper, sent through the mail. That is just crazy. (here you go making me all uncomfortable by getting personal and digging into feelings) One letter also had a pressed flower that he picked from a field they had to do pushups in. I will admit that I teased him about being such a cheese ball but deep down I still can’t believe he’d notice a flower while doing pushups and then mail it to me. I mean, who does that in real life? That’s only stuff you see in sappy girl movies like The Notebook.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Another “wow he’s a great guy” moment was during his first deployment to the Middle East. He surprised me by flying in my best college girlfriends for the first weekend of his deployment. Again, who does that? He’s the one leaving home for 77+ days, on a deployment to the 120+ degree dessert to live with dudes and eat chow hall food while “defending freedom” and he’s planning fun things for me. Freaking amazing.

More than anything though he continues to amaze and impress me with his unwavering sense of right and wrong and regard for others.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What were your top 5 favorite things about your wedding? The Groom, family and friends, the location/ venue, the band and the open bar.

Top 5 least favorite? Our flowers attracted bees during the ceremony, my bustle, Mike could only be there for 48 hrs. I can’t think of anything else.

What was the worst piece of wedding advice you received? I didn’t really get too much advice. More stories that started with, “when I got married…..and we did…..”. I really didn’t mind hearing other people’s ideas. Either way, we were going to put our own spin on it.

The worst wedding day question/comment: “When will we hear the pitter patter of little feet?” I mean really people!?! Can we please get married first before you throw out the kiddo question? Someone give me a glass of wine or something. Damn. {Ed.’s note: Arrrgh!!! Right?!?}

Ashley's little sis giving a speech.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The best? After the rehearsal dinner everyone went into the bar at the lodge and we continued the party. One of my bridesmaids, Gillian, turned to me and said, “You need to put your glass of wine down and go to bed.” She was so right! She saved me from being tired and hungover on our wedding day. I didn’t want to leave but am thankful she could tell me that and that she did.

If you’ve been married for more than a few years, what have been some challenges? Oh boy… here we go….
No really, I wouldn’t label them as challenges. I’d say more like things we’ve learned, accepted or changed. (how’s that for a diplomatic start?)

One thing that was challenging for me was sharing space when we first moved in together. Being an only child for a good portion of my life, I’ve never had to share a bathroom. So I guess my taking up the entire counter and leaving a small and — in my opinion — unnoticeable, pile of clothes behind the door isn’t a good thing. Humm, my jammies like it behind the bathroom door.

I also don’t see why the dining room table has to be used only for dinner. It’s right near the entryway and is a great spot to leave my purse, car keys, sunglasses, scarf and whatever other layers I want to remove while entering the home. Makes sense to me.

So for me, it has been an eye opening experience to realize that I may be a bit of a clutter bug. At least in the common space of the home…..which I guess is now the entire home.

If Mike were writing this I’d imagine he’d say a challenge was:
1) How much stuff a girl has and 2) how most of it is in the closet which leaves only a few inches for his clothes.

Now that we’ve been living together for almost 6 years, those things are what we laugh about.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What from your wedding vows/ceremony still holds the truest? Oh girl, I don’t remember our vows. Should I go watch our wedding dvd and get back to you?
Prolly the “to love and cherish” part. 😉

Any other bits of wisdom? Not sure you could call it wisdom. Maybe advice. I’d say just have fun with one another. If you can laugh and have a good time together the rest will all work out. Most of all, be nice to each other. It’s the one person who knows you best and is there for you. Don’t take that for granted.

Photos provided by Ashley, some by Imagewell Photography.
Also? Ash divulged that they had 8 bridesmaids, 6 dudes and 278 guests. That really takes planning. Srsly.
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The Whole Shebang.

Shaner was in town last weekend. Thank god. I needed to have some time with her in the worst way. We had a ton of fun … maybe too much (ha! Just kidding. Impossible).

Anyway, we got to play dress up for a hot second. I finally got to try my entire outfit on together. Veil, dress, shoes, jewelry. All at once. For the first time.

No, sorry, you don’t get pics. This one’s actually a surprise. (I know! How could I do that to you?!? The nerve.)

But, let me tell you …

IT’S FREAKING AWESOME.

Also? Screw the pinwheels. I can’t pick. What about ribbons on dowels?

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Challenge: On.

I’ve already posed this to the Usual Suspects Leader.

Only time shall tell.

Via.

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Pinwheel Paper.

I’m stuck. I’ll admit it.

I can’t figure out which papers I want to use for the pinwheels. Ack!!!

We’re going to get them from Pinwhirls. And they have a srsly silly amount of options.

My absolute favorites are under the Monster tag … but there’s like, A BAJILLION options.

Le sigh.

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Anticipation.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Love this. Via The Bowie Bride and her photographer.

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Wedinated: Rebecca and Lance

You guys!!! I’m so so so excited about this. My first real wedding post! I’ve known the female half of this couple for years … I even “dated” her little bro in middle school … you know, as much as you can “date” someone at that age. Her dad was my 7th-grade algebra teacher. She is a strong, confident and compassionate woman who has always stood firm by her beliefs and fights for what she knows is right. She is also now a mother of an adorable little girl. She writes her own blog over here. And without further ado … here’s Rebecca!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Name: Rebecca and Lance

Age: 28

Occupation: Licensed Clincial Social Worker working as a supervisor and licensing specialist at a Child Placement Agency (I license foster homes and help place foster kids in them)

Wedding location: Ceremony was at Jackson Lake Lodge, Reception was at Dornan’s, both in Jackson Hole, Wyoming

Wedding Date: June 18, 2005

Length of engagement: 2.5 years

Tell me about your wedding: Our wedding was all us. Since he’s Cherokee, and I’m Pagan (when I have to pin myself down to an actual religion), there weren’t many clergy in our small town that appealed to us. We were married by Terry Yazzolino, who’s a minster of the Universal Life Church. I wrote our ceremony from start to finish, and we each wrote our own vows, that weren’t revealed until the ceremony. The ceremony included the Cherokee wedding prayer, sand ceremony, memorial candle, and rose ceremony. It did, however, follow the same basic pattern as ceremonies that most people are used to.

I was walked down the aisle by my father, but we didn’t have any of that “giving the bride away” nonsense.

I do remember that during the opening, which we let Terry improvise on, he decided to have us turn to face everyone there to soak up the love or something like that. I don’t remember exactly what he said, but I do remember that that’s when I started crying…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What was your favorite part of your wedding? This is hard. I really loved the ceremony, because I wrote it and it was totally us. I loved his vows because they were written on the spot and totally from the heart. I loved doing the portraits after, especially the candid ones of just the two of us on the lawn of JLL. And I loved the toasts that our family and friends did. I think that those all pretty much tie for favorite part.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What disasters did you avert … or not avert and how did you deal with it?

The only real disaster was our Worst…er, I mean, Best Man… Lance made a deal with one of his nephews who was barely 18 at the time that if he would stay out of trouble (he was starting to make some not so good choices with his life) that if he got his shit together and stayed out of trouble until the wedding, he could be best man. Somehow, he managed to do this and got the position of honor.

He arrived in Jackson with Lance about a week before the wedding, and spent the entire week grating on EVERYONE’S last nerve. For example, we went up Cache Creek one night and he decided he had to show how “buff” he was by trying to pull someone’s F350. (Yes, he failed. And he kinda resembled a marshmallow…). He talked smack and had this massively inflated opinion of himself because he was in the Coast Guard and we were all just civilians (He later got dishonorably discharged. I laughed). I vaguely remember him threatening to arrest [my brother] Bryan at our bachelor(ette) party (we went on a joint camping trip with everyone up Curtis) for smoking weed because he was in the Coast Guard and could do that. We sent him off into the woods to find firewood and half hoped he’d end up walking off a cliff…but to no avail.

Anyway, when we went and got the marriage license, he assured Lance that he would keep it safe and make sure that it got to the ceremony etc, etc. Lance also put his copy of his vows with them. Apparently (I wasn’t informed of any of this until after the ceremony), they got to the ceremony, Lance asked for his vows, and the best man’s response was, “They’re in the truck” to which Lance replied, “You mean the truck that’s down at the reception site?” Yup, that truck. Idiot thought he didn’t need to grab the packet and that Lance wouldn’t need anything in it until the reception (scratch that, we needed EVERYTHING {license, vows, etc.} at the ceremony, and he knew this because we’d gone over it about 150 times…).

Anyway, one of Lance’s closest friends (who should have been Best Man) ended up missing the ceremony because he was driving like a bat out of hell back down to Dornan’s to get the marriage license. I dealt with it by kicking him with my shoe “accidentally” when I decided I didn’t’ want to dance in my heels anymore at the reception…and not speaking to him since. Lance has been a bit more diplomatic, but not much.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Was there anything you would have done differently, or do you have any regrets about how something went?
Really, my only regret was that the reception seemed to be more about people eating and leaving then our friends celebrating with us. I think that a lot of this had to do with our decision not to have an open bar (Lance’s family has more than their fair share of alcoholics, and we realized that we just couldn’t afford to have an open bar, not to mention that their behavior goes down hill fast when they’ve been drinking). That really hurt, because it felt like a lot of people cared more about drinking than about celebrating with us. So I might have had a partially open bar (up to a certain dollar amount or something).

I also wouldn’t have used the baker that we did. We went with my former horseback riding instructor turned cake baker because she was a family friend and gave us what we thought was a good deal. I’d looked at her portfolio, and we tasted the cake a head of time, so I was pretty confident that we’d get just what I wanted. What we ordered was a 4 layer cake with white fondant with a filigree icing design in blue and purple (our colors) on alternating tears (ie: top blue, 2nd purple, 3rd blue, 4th purple). I even sent her pictures of the cake that I was basing ours off of, and she assured me that she could do it. She lied. We ended up with a 3 tiered, slightly lopsided cake that was dirty iced in YELLOW buttercream with no fondant, and blue and purple designs that looked like a 5 year old had drawn them on. It tasted good, but totally not worth the $500 we paid her for it.

Oh, and I might have suggested a different Best Man…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What was your biggest challenge in planning?
Finding a freaking ceremony site! I’d always wanted to get married at JLL, but the reception cost for there was a bit out of our price range, so we opted for Dornan’s. However, I didn’t want to get married there with the gas pumps in the background… I searched and searched for a ceremony site to no avail, and was getting insanely stressed.

One day in September (and in Jackson, not having your site 9 months out can be dangerous…), I got a call from my MOH at like 7:30 in the morning. “I’m calling to let you know I’m finding you a ceremony site today. Goodbye.” Didn’t even give me a chance to talk. She called back about 2 hours later telling me that she’d talked to the events coordinator at JLL and they had the lawn available for that day, and were willing to give it to me for the ceremony for $500. The catch was all the indoor rooms were booked, so if it rained, I was going to be a soggy bride… I risked it.

The other biggest challenge is that my MOH’s husband and flower girls’ father passed away unexpectedly on May 1, 2005, and I spent all of May up with them, planning funerals and helping take care of my “nieces” while my “sister” coped and learned how to start to live without her husband. Throw a move to Denver in on June 1, and that last month was slightly chaotic for someone trying to put the finishing touches on a wedding. But I survived.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What lessons did you learn from planning or from the wedding itself?
When the day’s over, you won’t remember much, but what does matter is how much you love each other, and that your family and friends were there to support you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What was your biggest “holyamazeballzI’mfreakininlove!” moment?
Lance and I had agreed that we wouldn’t try to memorize our vows, and that we’d just read them (we’d each written our own). I went first, and when it was his turn and the preacher didn’t hand him his vows to read from, I got slightly nervous. (Remember, he didn’t have them because the Worst Man had left them at Dornan’s…) But what came next was absolutely amazing.

His vows were more touching, more from the heart, and more perfect than anything he could have planned. I was astounded in the moment that he’d memorized them, and even more so later when I learned everything that had happened and discovered that they weren’t memorized, they were made up on the spot.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What were your top 5 favorite things about your wedding?
Aside from marrying Lance, Location, my dress, my photographer, my dad’s toast and my MOH’s toast

Top 5 least favorite?
Best Man, People leaving quickly from the reception, the cake, and I really don’t know if I can think of 2 more…

What was the worst piece of wedding advice you received?
“Don’t do it!”

The best?
“When the day’s done, it won’t matter what you wore, who was there, or what went right or wrong. What will matter is that you are in love, and together forever.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you’ve been married for more than a few years, what have been some challenges? Learning that we are both still individuals who are going to continue to grow and change. I think during most of our fights one of us says something to the effect of, “But you used to always…” or “But you’ve never done…” We’ve had to learn how to adapt our relationship to who we are and who we’re becoming, rather than having it remain stagnant. It can be a challenge, but it’s worth it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What from your wedding vows/ceremony still holds the truest?
“Although this marriage creates a single unit, that unit is only as strong as its individual parts, thus you must each realize that in order to come together, you must maintain your individuality.” We also did the rose ceremony, and there’s a bit in there about how when we’re mad, or angry, or just don’t have words, to leave the other a single rose to remind both that we are still in love. We have lots of roses around the house…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Any other bits of wisdom?
It’s not easy, but it’s worth it. It won’t be like the fairy tales, and there will be times when you go, “WTF was I thinking?!?” But if you can stick it out, and remember why you are in the relationship, you will make it through, and you will come out stronger on the other side. If it’s good 51% of the time, it’s worth holding on to, and chances are, it’ll be good much more than that.

All photos courtesy Grand Productions/Rick Armstrong Photography
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